A Memoir of a Mother’s Determination and Her Micro Preemie’s Struggle to Beat the Odds
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the Moms, Step-Moms, Grandmothers, Godmothers, Foster-Moms, Aunts and every woman who has “mothered” a child.
Here are some of my favorite quotes about mothers:
“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” ~Rajneesh
“No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.” ~Edwin Hubbell Chapin
“A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” ~Tenneva Jordan
“The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” ~Honoré de Balzac
Mothers should be recognized every day for what they do for their children except we don’t want or need the recognition. It’s part of the job we signed up for and we love it. However it’s nice to have the people you love the most in the world share some words of gratitude with you- their mother.
My first child’s first birthday was on my first Mother’s Day! Say that twice fast. Lol! And my last child’s first birthday was on Mother’s Day also. Weird.
My best Mother’s Day memory yet (and I’ve been a Mother for 12 years now!) is Mother’s Day 2012. That is the day that I got to meet my daughter for the first time.
As most of you know, my daughter Joy was born at 23 weeks gestation, weighing only 1 pound and 4 ounces. She was just 11 ¾ inches long.
Not only did I almost lose my life several times during my short pregnancy and again during the surgery to deliver her, but her extremely early birth put her at risk for severe medical issues, including losing her life as well.
Because of the seriousness of both of our conditions after her birth, I was not able to meet her or touch her for a few days. I refused to name her until I could meet her- although the doctors kept telling me that I might never get to meet her.
Well, it was late in the evening on Mother’s Day and I was able to convince a nurse to wheel me down (IVs and blood included) to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) to meet my daughter.
I was only able to stay for 5 minutes because of my condition, but I got to meet her. She opened her eyes (which were meant to be shut for 4 more months) and stared in my direction. They tell me that she could not possibly see me because her eyes were not able to focus yet, but I know she did see me or sense me.
Then I sanitized my hand and was able to stick my pointer finger in the opening in the isolette (incubator). What happened next will stay with me forever. She clasped her tiny little fingers around my finger.
I felt Joy for the first time in months.
That night I called my husband and told him that I wanted to name her Joy.
Anyway… as I write this post today, on Mother’s Day 2017, we are also celebrating my oldest son’s 12th Birthday, which falls on Mother’s Day again.
I would not have it any other way!
Happy Mother’s Day.
Before I go, I would like to mention that Mother’s Day is not as happy for many people as it is for me. We should be sensitive to women who may be struggling today- like those who recently lost a mother, lost a child, or someone who has been unsuccessfully trying to have a child for some time. Let’s all try to be sensitive to those women. Click HERE to see how you can help them.